I recently read an article called Confessions of a Wedding Planner: 5 Signs a Couple Will Crash and Burn. The title caught my attention because I thought that this article might evidence that even those outside of Christendom are beginning to acknowledge and count as good God’s design for men and women in marriage.
Not surprisingly, the first two things this wedding planner identified as signs that a new marriage would not last were: 1) the bride refuses to let the groom choose the cake and 2) the groom lets his mom call the shots.
A bride who refuses to let the groom choose the cake is usurping his authority (granted, in a small way) and responsibility to lead in making decisions for the couple. In other words, she is refusing to fulfill her God given role within marriage – to intelligently submit to the leadership of her husband.
A groom who allows him mom to call all the shots is, quite simply, being a pansy. In allowing his mother to call the shots, he is not demonstrating an ability to both protect and lead his wife as he ought – “A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
In these two cases both the bride to be and the groom to be are already showing an inability to fulfill the distinct roles that God has called them to fulfill in their marriage relationship. Just as this wedding planner aptly noted, a marriage which is not lining up with God’s revealed will is a one that is headed on a course to “crash and burn.”
photo by B2COLD
Update: The link is fixed.